Aamir hates being told he is wrong

Aamir Khan

Hi Aamir!

As an actor, you’re sure incredible. Some of the movies you acted in are my favourites too. However, I wanted to know you beyond your acting, at a deeper level; to understand the real face behind many reel personas. People know you as an accomplished and versatile actor.  What you do on the screen is for everyone to see. Here, I’ll disclose those chapters of your life, which very few know about. It’s mere an attempt to know you through your handwriting without being judgmental. So, permit me, Aamir, to strip you for your millions of fans. Here we go:

Aamir Khan's handwriting sample

Aamir, the first thing I notice in your handwriting is that most of your decisions in life are taken by your heart. You are a very, very sentimental person with broad range of emotions — from extreme highs to absolute lows. You feel every emotional situation intensely. In one moment you are too happy and then after some time, without reasons not even known to you, you feel utterly low and end up exhausting yourself emotionally. You find these mood swings very disturbing and at times you feel that you can’t produce anything anymore. That’s when you go back to your shell for some time, recharge yourself in solitude and come out with more ideas and strength.

You must have observed in your life that you have a get-it-done-now-and-worry-later attitude, which has landed you in several emotional troubles. You are too quick in anything related to emotions. Be it anger, love, passion or even jealousy. And then comes delayed realisation and you hear these sentences echoing in your mind: “I shouldn’t have said that. I shouldn’t have done that. I should have thought about it before doing… blah, blah.”

You frequently feel the need to be told that you are loved and wanted. And if you don’t get that from your loved ones, you feel terribly hurt. If the situation persists, you tend to move on to a person who you think will say it and make you feel better. (Kiran, now you know how you can handle your man. More is coming; keep reading.) You have a problem working in a group because more often than not, you believe that all others are conspiring against you. You think that people in the film industry are talking against you and they want to bring about your downfall. Let me tell you, Aamir, your handwriting shows that most of these fears are  the byproducts of your imagination. To a great extent, this attitude is the reason you keep yourself aloof. You feel if you let anyone come close, they will hurt you emotionally because you take all comments to your heart.

Criticism is like chilli for Aamir

People dealing with you have to very cautious what they say because one wrong word and without their knowing, Aamir will distance himself from them. If a friend, Mr A, says anything against you or your ideas and opinions, you quickly conclude that Mr A is from the “enemy camp” and you begin to distrust him and hate him. And you do that very secretly. You don’t tell anyone about your hatred. Also, you also have intellectual sensitivity. You take it personally when anybody opposes your ideas and philosophy without first praising yours. I have a feeling that you stays away from all award functions because of some individuals who at one point in time berated you, belittled your achievements or undermined your potentials. Because you have a long-lasting memory, you have not forgotten those insults. And just to express your displeasure and register your protest, you stay away from these functions. You then work hard to show “them” that you can do a better job.  You don’t like being told “how do do” things; you BELIEVE you know how to do your job. You think you’re always right. People working with you sometimes get frustrated because you tend to go back to a scene or a shot again and again, again and again, again and again just to make sure the final product is nothing less than superb. Your need for perfection is largely driven by a desire to avoid criticism. You indeed tire yourself considerably just to achieve the perfection.

In personal relationships, you must have heard yourself say it to your partner very often: “Why did you say that? Why did you do that?” Nothing hurts you more than criticisms, especially if it comes from a partner. They leave you in enormous pain. You also hear yourself saying, “I don’t care what others say about me. I give a damn”. But you KNOW, Aamir, that the truth is you are really bothered about what people say. (Kiran, another revelation which you can make use of. Probably his first life partner would also have found it useful.)

Hey Aamir, tell me honestly: Aren’t you too concerned about the way you look? Don’t you stop wearing a particular dress just because someone said  it once that it did not look good on you? One more thing: As a child you were subjected to excessive criticism and humiliation by people close to you.

A lot more could be said about you, Aamir. But I think it’s enough for the moment. Despite all this, you’re a wonderful actor and I won’t worry about any of the things mentioned above till I am required to deal with you at a personal level. At that point, I will surely use graphotherapy to suggest you a few changes in handwriting. One of them would be: take out the loops from your d’s and t’s. It will help you deal with your sensitivity.

All the best for Ghajini!

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Sorry docs, your handwriting sucks

The prick will cause or ease the pain?

Years ago, I heard about the awkward predicament of a young girl. She used to visit chemist shops frequently. No, she was not a patient of chronic diarrhoea; she was in a long-distance relationship with a doctor who used to write to her love letters thrice a week. Like most doctors, his handwriting was also illegible. It could not be read: it could only be deciphered.

Most doctors write illegibly and it’s extremely annoying. We have all experienced it. Forget about the names of the medicines, we can’t even figure out whether we have to pop the pill before waking up or after going to bed. Like a bunch of buffoons, we depend on the extraordinary ability of salesmen at medicine shops to understand what has been prescribed for us and how the drugs have to be administered on us. “Why can’t these buggers write clearly?” an exasperated chemist near my residence once muttered when I handed over to him a medical prescription. The query could indeed by categorised as a universal poser: Why don’t doctors write legibly? But I believe the more pertinent question here should be: Why do doctors write illegibly and what does it mean? We’ll try finding answers to this.

In many cases, gaining health means losing wealth

Last month, I came across a report about a Mumbai doctor who was lambasted by a court of law for preparing a medical report in illegible handwriting. Following the rap, she gave an undertaking in the court that she would try to improve her handwriting. (Read the report). It was a good precedent set by the court and I was savouring the news that morning. Even as I was reading the report, a friend called up and said, “Vish, why don’t you write on doctors’ illegible handwriting?”

“If I do, I will die unattended when I’m unwell. Because if by any chance the doctor who has read this happens to encounter me as a patient, he will look at me as if I were a dead body, not an ailing person,” I told the friend.

“Never mind. There are certainly a few doctors who write legibly and you can depend on them” she argued.

She was right. I decided to write on doctors who write illegibly. Here we go:

Handwriting experts across the world have established that consistent illegible handwriting is indicative of a subconscious inclination to be careless, negligent and sloppy towards the person for whom it has been written. Therefore, if a doctor writes illegibly for his patients, it means he is inconsiderate to the recipients of the prescriptions. It’s like an attitude imprinted on the paper, which could be roughly put into words in the following manner: “I don’t care whether you are able to read it or not; I don’t care whether you get well or not; I am sitting here doing my job the way I like, in my own style. How much you will be benefitted from my skills is your problem and I am not going to be least bothered about what happens to you after you leave this cabin. Just pay the fee to my assistant and get out…”

Doctor, writing legibly means showing care. Do patients not deserve that?

I know it sounds bizarre but that’s what illegible handwriting means. This attitude among some doctors emanates from the realisation of a power to effect changes in an individual’s physical existence. The power is extraordinary and very few can handle it with ease and without losing their sanity. And no doubt some doctors are as fallible as any other humans and they argue that they write illegibly because they are in haste and they have to attend to many patients. Now, I have a serious problem with this argument. It’s complete hogwash. We can prove it. On an average, a doctor does not write more than 40 words on a prescription. Let’s assume that they take about three minutes to write a prescription in illegible handwriting. But if they wrote legibly, maybe they would take four minutes. Right? The difference is just about 60 seconds. Doc, do you really want me to believe that you write illegibly because you are too busy to spare 60 seconds? Sorry, sir, give me another one. If you consistently write illegibly for your patients, it shows your carelessness and inconsideration.

Illegible handwriting

Here is an example: the same friend who told me to write on doctors’ illegible handwriting shared with me that her grandfather, a doctor by profession, used to write illegibly while writing prescriptions, but he showed amazing clarity in handwriting when he wrote personal letters. Every time he wrote to his dear family members, he wanted to show his caring nature. And he used to show that through clarity in his handwriting. Do you see a clearer picture now? Haven’t all of us experienced that we become concerned about legibility while writing on greetings cards or love cards? Have you ever thought why? I’m sure you got your answer today: legibility, graphology says, is a subconscious way to show care. So, next time you receive a get-well-soon card with messages written in illegible handwriting, I’m sure you will know how to take it.

Pills that generate only bills

Docs, if your signature is as illegible as your handwriting, then I really do not know what to say. I’ll rather not get into that subject here, as I don’t want doctors to issue a fatwa against me and blacklist me as a patient. Illegible handwriting with illegible signature is a deadly combination. The patients of such doctors say: “My doctor gave me six months to live, but when I couldn’t pay the bill he gave me six months more.” Docs, no hard feelings. Now, permit me to offer you a suggestion, docs. Please write legibly and you will discover a sudden drop in the number of notices against you for negligence.

By the way, guys, what do you think of the relationship between the doc and the girl who visited the chemist shop frequently? Do you think that guy loved her? I’m not telling you the answer. This one is easy. Go figure!

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MR MITTAL’S HANDWRITING ANALYSIS

Mr Mittal's handwriting sample

In this post I am analysing the handwriting sample of Mr N Mittal, a Write Choice visitor. Mr Mittal is a rare combination of intense emotions, dignity, pride, honour and self-respect. He always watches a fight between his emotions and his pride. Emotions want him to let go, but his pride stops him for showing what he feels. He has an excessive need to appear right and look appropriate. Mr Mittal always feels he should not say or do anything that is below his dignity. If anyone does not oblige him on his first request, he won’t say it again. He shows respect for people, gives them importance, offers them space and expects other to treat him similarly. He is too proud of the way he looks and handles things in his life. Watch out, Mr Mittal! There is a thin line dividing pride and vanity. Anyone who wants to win his favour needs to appeal to his heart. He is guided by emotions, though he does not exhibit them very often. Mr Mittal sets practical and achievable goals for himself and he pretty much achieves them. He has a keen interest in philosophy and spirituality and ardently pursues acquisition of knowledge. He is emotionally distant from both his parents, especially mom. And it’s likely his mom was a disciplinarian at home.

POP A PEN KILLER

Mr Mittal, I don’t recommend any changes in your handwriting at the moment. But I would like you to bring about some changes in your signature (I’m not showing it for ). I see that the first letter of your first name is overwritten by your second name. I suggest you separate them and use your full name in the signature, making sure that the ‘N’ is the biggest letter in the entire signature. It’s ok to underline your signature the way you do now. All the best!

You’re screwed if you’ve got a boy-fiend

Ladies, I'm a nice man. It's just that I have the heart of a devil. Wanna play?

Some statements are like bad cold and cough. Almost everyone gets it or gives it. One such is often heard during break-ups. And the gem is: “You’ll never find anyone like me again!” When someone said this to me once upon a time, I wondered, “My goodness! I should hope not! If I don’t want you, why would I want someone like you?”

Similarly, a close friend decided to move on a couple of years ago after her search for fulfilment in a romantic relationship hit a dead-end. She ignored his cough ’n’ cold and married a fine gentleman last year. She has turned out to be a terrific wife: she is a loving and caring woman who always forgives her husband when she’s wrong! They make a lovely couple and I’m happy for them.

A few months before getting married, Cynthia (That’s what I’ll call her) spoke to me about her ex-boyfriend. I’ll share it with you in brief. For her studies, Cynthia had gone to London for a few years. During her stay in the UK, she met Sid with whom she went steady for a few months. Things didn’t go well between them and as they went along, Cynthia realised Sid was not the right guy for her. Soon, they parted with mutual understanding and later she returned to India.

Honey, I want you back.... NOW

For a few months there was no news of him. Apparently, they had moved on and Cynthia was now committed to Samar with plans for future. But just when she thought everything was going fine, Sid resurfaced. He started making efforts to reconnect with Cynthia. She politely rejected his overtures. But he began badgering her with calls, emails and text messages. Cynthia was adamant, she refused to give way. Gradually, Sid became belligerent and stroppy. On a couple of occasions he even flew down to India to persuade her into making a comeback. His mindless doggedness and tenacity troubled Cynthia, but she had made up her mind to resist his foolhardiness. However, the uncertainty that surrounded the whole thing and Sid’s misdirected motives sometimes rattled her.

Cynthia discussed at length the entire story with me over chat and told me she was not sure what to do. “I am a little worried. I don’t know what Sid is going to do. We broke up because it wasn’t going anywhere. And now, he’s pestering me and persecuting me…”

Sid's handwriting

Cynthia was right. “A relationship,” Woody Allen once said, “is like a shark. It has to constantly move forward or it dies. And I think what we (most of us) got on our hands is a dead shark.” Apparently, Cynthia wanted a sprightly and spry shark.

She instantly emailed me Sid’s handwriting on a greeting card he had presented to her in the UK. As I saw his handwriting unfold slowly on the screen of my laptop, the first word that zipped through my lips was: “FUCK”. I told her straight away that under no circumstances should she have anything to do with that man. He was sure a danger.

As I analysed Sid’s handwriting, I discovered that he suffered from the out-of-the-sight-out-of-the-mind syndrome. It meant that mentally he was with Cynthia as long as she was in front of him. But the moment she was physically absent, he would seek out “others” and hit on other women. I told Cynthia that this man had some serious conflict with women because of his awful relationship with his mother. Cynthia then revealed that indeed he was not at all on good terms with his mother and he hated her.

Be careful! Your heart may be hurt

Now, click on Sid’s handwriting sample to enlarge it and look carefully at the sharp hooks in the lower zone letters y’s and g’s. The claw-like formation in the two letters are really ominous and if you see it in the handwriting of your lovers, please be careful. Such claws are often found in the handwriting of criminals. These hook-like formations are dangerous because they show up in that zone of the handwriting which reflects the writer’s relationship with his romantic partners, his professional health and his physical life. They are heart-breakers.

When I told Cynthia that this person can be physically abusive and violent, she said she had heard him talk about getting murderous if he did not get what he wanted. The muddiness in the strokes, caused by the irregular flow of ink because of an unstable pressure of writing, is indicative of his unsound mind. Such a writer can never think of his partner with respect and would rather look at her as an object of sexual gratification. During intercourse too, such writers can be violent with their partners.

I sound sweet, but I am not. Watch out! I will claw you.

About such hook formations, famous graphologist Andrea McNichol says: “The claw means… bitterness and bad instincts. He will seem to be the nicest person on the earth. No one would suspect this person of having an evil bone in his body. But then, he is setting you up only to stab you in the back; he will end up clawing you…. This is most frightening because you don’t know the knife is coming. The claw appears frequently in the lower zones of rapists. That does not mean that all people with such claws are rapists…”

My conclusion about Sid is based not only on the hooks appearing in the two letters. Using a magnifying glass, I have also spotted many things including muddiness, certain thickness of strokes and pointed endings of all the hooks. If I see such strokes in the handwriting of a woman on my first date, I’d get up to find the nearest exit. And you? Take your call.

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MEET A SWEET TANYA

Tanya's handwriting sample

This week, I’m analysing the handwriting sample of a Write Choice visitor from Canada, Ms Tanya Irvine, who sent me her handwriting via email. Tanya, you are perceived as a very sweet person who is controlled completely by emotion. Most of your decisions are taken by your heart. Anybody who comes to you with an emotional story moves you. After you are melted by such stories, some people do take advantage of you. And the matter is worsened because you are also a little gullible. It’s not difficult to presume upon your credulity.

If you like someone, you say it. You don’t like to withhold your emotions. If you love someone, your preferred way to express it would be a tight hug. (Though it’s not always possible!) Tanya, your need for people in your life is immense and you want to be accepted by everyone. Because of this desire to be liked and seek attention, you think that being sweet is the only way to make yourself acceptable to everyone. You want others to approve of you because you don’t trust your abilities to complete a task despite being an organised person. Your set your goals pretty high but the efforts you have been making or the risks you have been taking to achieve them are inadequate. You are essentially an outspoken person but you don’t speak your mind, fearing that by being blunt you might antagonise people. Also, you have fear of rejection and problem taking ‘no’ for an answer. Despite being a sweet person, you are facing issues in your intimate personal relationships.

Tanya, if anyone says anything unpleasant to you, it occupies your mind for a long time. You keep thinking about it and trouble yourself. You exhaust yourself thinking, “Why did he say that? What did he mean by that?” Right, Tanya?

Tanya, you have difficulty taking quick decisions and you need others’ help with forming an opinion. If others don’t approve of your decisions, it bothers you. You have a tendency to defy the authority. You hate people who boss around. I trace the root of this tendency your relationship with your father. You faced emotional issues with your dad.

In short, you are a great person and too friendly. You go all out to help your friends. And looking at your handwriting sample, I won’t think twice before accepting you as a friend. Honestly.

CORRECTION

POP A PEN KILLER
Tanya, write “I do what I want to do” about three pages every day for a month on ruled paper . Leave a margin of one inch on the left. Write on every alternate line and make sure that the placement of your t’s are as you see in CORRECTION. The exercise will make sure the gap between your goals and your efforts is bridged. Also, you won’t unnecessarily feel the need for approval from others and will being to speak your mind more often than not. You’ll also cease to find fault with yourself. All the best, Tanya. Hope you enjoyed reading this.

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