Aamir hates being told he is wrong

Aamir Khan

Aamir Khan

Hi Aamir!

As an actor, you’re sure incredible. Some of the movies you acted in are my favourites too. However, I wanted to know you beyond your acting, at a deeper level; to understand the real face behind many reel personas. People know you as an accomplished and versatile actor.  What you do on the screen is for everyone to see. Here, I’ll disclose those chapters of your life, which very few know about. It’s mere an attempt to know you through your handwriting without being judgmental. So, permit me, Aamir, to strip you for your millions of fans. Here we go:

Aamir Khan's handwriting sample

Aamir Khan's handwriting sample

Aamir, the first thing I notice in your handwriting is that most of your decisions in life are taken by your heart. You are a very, very sentimental person with broad range of emotions — from extreme highs to absolute lows. You feel every emotional situation intensely. In one moment you are too happy and then after some time, without reasons not even known to you, you feel utterly low and end up exhausting yourself emotionally. You find these mood swings very disturbing and at times you feel that you can’t produce anything anymore. That’s when you go back to your shell for some time, recharge yourself in solitude and come out with more ideas and strength.

You must have observed in your life that you have a get-it-done-now-and-worry-later attitude, which has landed you in several emotional troubles. You are too quick in anything related to emotions. Be it anger, love, passion or even jealousy. And then comes delayed realisation and you hear these sentences echoing in your mind: “I shouldn’t have said that. I shouldn’t have done that. I should have thought about it before doing… blah, blah.”

You frequently feel the need to be told that you are loved and wanted. And if you don’t get that from your loved ones, you feel terribly hurt. If the situation persists, you tend to move on to a person who you think will say it and make you feel better. (Kiran, now you know how you can handle your man. More is coming; keep reading.) You have a problem working in a group because more often than not, you believe that all others are conspiring against you. You think that people in the film industry are talking against you and they want to bring about your downfall. Let me tell you, Aamir, your handwriting shows that most of these fears are  the byproducts of your imagination. To a great extent, this attitude is the reason you keep yourself aloof. You feel if you let anyone come close, they will hurt you emotionally because you take all comments to your heart.

Criticisms are like chili powder for Aamir

Criticism is like chilli for Aamir

People dealing with you have to very cautious what they say because one wrong word and without their knowing, Aamir will distance himself from them. If a friend, Mr A, says anything against you or your ideas and opinions, you quickly conclude that Mr A is from the “enemy camp” and you begin to distrust him and hate him. And you do that very secretly. You don’t tell anyone about your hatred. Also, you also have intellectual sensitivity. You take it personally when anybody opposes your ideas and philosophy without first praising yours. I have a feeling that you stays away from all award functions because of some individuals who at one point in time berated you, belittled your achievements or undermined your potentials. Because you have a long-lasting memory, you have not forgotten those insults. And just to express your displeasure and register your protest, you stay away from these functions. You then work hard to show “them” that you can do a better job.  You don’t like being told “how do do” things; you BELIEVE you know how to do your job. You think you’re always right. People working with you sometimes get frustrated because you tend to go back to a scene or a shot again and again, again and again, again and again just to make sure the final product is nothing less than superb. Your need for perfection is largely driven by a desire to avoid criticism. You indeed tire yourself considerably just to achieve the perfection.

In personal relationships, you must have heard yourself say it to your partner very often: “Why did you say that? Why did you do that?” Nothing hurts you more than criticisms, especially if it comes from a partner. They leave you in enormous pain. You also hear yourself saying, “I don’t care what others say about me. I give a damn”. But you KNOW, Aamir, that the truth is you are really bothered about what people say. (Kiran, another revelation which you can make use of. Probably his first life partner would also have found it useful.)

Hey Aamir, tell me honestly: Aren’t you too concerned about the way you look? Don’t you stop wearing a particular dress just because someone said  it once that it did not look good on you? One more thing: As a child you were subjected to excessive criticism and humiliation by people close to you.

A lot more could be said about you, Aamir. But I think it’s enough for the moment. Despite all this, you’re a wonderful actor and I won’t worry about any of the things mentioned above till I am required to deal with you at a personal level. At that point, I will surely use graphotherapy to suggest you a few changes in handwriting. One of them would be: take out the loops from your d’s and t’s. It will help you deal with your sensitivity.

All the best for Ghajini!

To read this and many other articles on graphology, visit the website of Handwriting University International, USA

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16 thoughts on “Aamir hates being told he is wrong

  1. Hi again.
    You write a good blog here and I really appreciate your success in helping so many.
    So; I’m a student of psychology and neuroscience at a european university whith a good deal of training in hypnotherapy independent of my study. What you write about here would certainly be of interest to me, if previous studies wouldn’t have placed the validity of graphological techniques is a less than favourable light.
    And so I ask you so you can answer to yourself:
    Would you be willing to take part in a controlled, scientific experiment concerning the validity of graphological interpretations of handwriting examples as a measure of parsonality traits or other qualities adhering persons?
    And would you be willing to scientifically test the hypothesis that the underlying cause of personal change during graphotherapy (or whatever you call it) relies on this validity?
    What would be the cause you would attribute eventual failure to if your hypothesis would not be proven right within the framework of scientific research? If you would not score above chance level in asessing human traits in a double blind experiment?

    In the light of modern science it may be absolutely so that your method of interpreting handwriting and using your interpretation as a tool in therapy proove useful measured by the personal responses you get, such as ‘wow you helped me a lot, the decisions I made based on your help were right, i feel a lot better now than three weeks ago’. But this doesn’t mean that the cause for this change lies in graphology itself, or that graphology can say something significant about a person that does not for any other person as well. Graphotherapy would serve here as a mere framework for a sort of therapy that relies more on the framework itself than on its content which are the theory behind your work and its methods.
    You promise help, you do something which you are abolutely sure that it will help and the only method the other person can assure himself that what you do will work is how it is presented to him. The result is, what is commonly called the placebo effect: Physiological and phenomenological changes in the person that are unexplained by the medication but wouldn’t have occurred without it.

    So either your method are Barnum-statements mixed with a bit of good intuitive and implicit knowledge of human nature, a better placebo so to say, or it is really so that graphology is a concept very useful for modern science. For example, if your method would prove valid, graphological data could be very valuable source for all sorts of information regarding personal traits. One could automate gigantic data mining projects that would be of great help for evaluating therapies overall (as a measure of success of therapy) or a manifold of other things in psychological science.

    But I would always bet on the human mind and its power constructing its own reality as a powerful tool to heal itself!

    If you want, I will design this study with you and we’ll see whether we can get an answer to this questions, but independant of this answer, your practice of interpreting people you only know from TV seems ethically disputable to me.

    Kind regards,
    Devils Advocate

  2. I think so that like Gajni U also have to look to make good bulid and strong martial art lesson because I thin k so that he wont be able to digest it as it’s common with all…

  3. Oh!
    This is so closely related to what he achieved through “Tare Zameen Par”.
    Open up! Aamir. Be a part of the world and see positivity in criticisms.
    I suggest Aamir go through the “Art of Living” course by Ravishankar. That will provide you a lot of insight into what Vish is writing here. I have gone thro’ and come out of these kind of emotional barriers.
    Let go of all the insults that you carry.
    Aamir, write to me..I wanna be your best friend!

  4. You know I have a feeling if what you have written about Amir khan is true…which seems like,he probably wouldnt like the article ;-)…
    I liked the insight.
    I hate to say this the construction of your article has not been like the previous ones.
    Your articles are fun to read even if graphology doesnot interest someone…this time it wasnt like that..
    I am still going to be an ardent reader.

  5. Hey Riddhi,

    Sorry to say but I dont agree with your point coz i just love the way Vish plays with words and presents it.. I can say by reading his articles that this guy is full of beautiful thoughts..

    The reason for ur dis-appointment is coz here Vishwas is writing abt an individual not abt any group or something else so i feel at times it becomes a bit difficult to portray.

    BTW.. once again an intersting analysis.. I wish u will analyse my hand writing in the same way.. 🙂

  6. Hey thats quite an insight on my fav actor 🙂 I do hope someone posts a link of this on Aamir’s blog and that he does read. After Mr Perfectionist aint all that perfect!!

  7. Compliments of the season… I know there is tension on bet. India n Pak… I dont wana make any more tension here 2…but wt* I agree with Riddhi… no offence Dharna…

  8. Hey Vishwas,
    Let any of the doubting Thomases say anything they want, I can vouch for grapha logy and how it has given me insight into my life which I would not have found out otherwise.
    Keep up the good work and let me know when u intend to start teaching us the art and not fool us about it in giving a us scraps of loaf.
    luv ,
    Vanita

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