Miss Emotion, I’m not in love with you

Tears... my private tears

Tears... my private tears

Tears are pearls. No wonder they sell well — most of the time. Ask TV soap queen Ekta Kapoor; she knows. Evidently, many buy tears (teary stories). Many ignore them. Some drops are genuine, some fake. A lot of people shed tears to feel lighter; a great many misuse them to arm-twist others into meeting selfish ends. Some say tears are soul’s shower, others argue they reflect lack of power. Some let them flow when they are in pain; many withhold because they think it’s a shame.

I share my grief with myself

I share my grief with myself

Clearly, the world is split over tears. Both views are “valid”, no doubt, and there are plenty of arguments to cushion each of them. Hence, it would be foolish and anserine to take sides and decide which of the two is “more precise” and “logical”. For the moment, we can all agree that the value of this salt-water solution depends on situations. For example, its acceptability in public is utmost only in utter grief or extreme happiness. Any exception to this makes tears attract dyslogistic adjectives such as “ridiculous”, “sissy”, “silly”, “effeminate” and the worst of them all and most casual one is “woman-like”. In short, there is an overriding tendency to disparage emotional behaviour and look down upon tears because they “show the individual’s weakness” and very few want to be associated with the frail and feeble.

Tears of professional and habitual mourners. They don't know anything else except crying

The tears of professional and habitual mourners. Indeed, they don't know anything else other than crying & crying

Inveterate lamenters don’t care; they give a damn about the dam between the tears and the world outside. Just about any loss — real or imaginative — makes them breach the barrier at any hour of the day, in any situation of life, for anything whatsoever. No holds barred. We all know these patients of ocular diarrhoea and find it strenuous to value them or their grief exhibited by tears. In handwriting analysis, such writers, who lack emotional control, are identified by a certain extremity in the right slant coupled with a bouncy baseline (picture A). There are many exceptions to these indicators and we’ll talk about these emotional freaks in detail some other time. Here, we’ll play snooker.

RIGHT SLANT WITH WITH BOUNCY BASELINE

PICTURE A: Right slant with bouncy baseline

Ok… I was kidding. No games here. We’ll talk about the other extreme; about those who don’t sell tears. Yes, the same person who sits in the corner and seldom shouts, scarcely screams, rarely reacts, keeps cool, looks detached and appears unperturbed. All of us know a few such people in our lives. They look inviolable and strong. How well do you think you know such people? How do they deal with their emotional pain if they never let the pearls roll down their cheeks? Mind you, they don’t even share their grief with others. Is it possible that they have secret tears that nobody knows about? Is it likely that they never reveal even to their “best” friends that they cry clandestinely even when something “very minor” upsets them? Do they always put up a brave front in the face of losses or hurt while all they want to do is to break down and cry?

I don't feel the need to tell others what I am feeling

Friend, don't ask me questions. I don't feel the need to tell anyone what I feel

Well, the answers to these questions perhaps shape some secret realities of their well-guarded private lives that might be identical to those of many of us. One of the realities is that no matter what others’ views are on tears, many such “strong” people do let their tears flow when they want to and make sure nobody knows about it — maybe just to deflect derision.

On my way back home from office every night by local train, I often choose to stand at the gate because the compartments are not crowded at that hour of the day and it’s a delight braving the gush of wind. One day last week when I was going home, I stood at the gate, looking aimlessly at things that whizzed past in the darkness outside. Suddenly, I was startled by a few drops that scurried down my cheeks. Thankfully, nothing dries faster than tears. I was relieved. I looked around. Nobody had noticed the freedom-seeking drops. It happened to me a few times that week. The reason behind the pain that triggered those tears is personal. And nobody except me knows that. I don’t feel the need to share it. Anyway… let’s not concentrate on me or my pain. I’m not so important. The point I am trying to make here is that some people, especially men, have a tendency to desist from displaying emotions. In interpersonal relationships, they are written off as unemotional people who “don’t understand emotions and have no feelings”. By the way, I see your mind is still trying to guess what happened to me in the train that night. Do you expect me to talk about it? Buzz off! I’m not telling you. Let’s move ahead now.

Talking of emotions: each of us has emotions. But are we all emotional? Perhaps no. Even if we are, do we all show it? Perhaps no. Apparently, many people don’t exhibit emotions because they are not sure whether their emotions will be respected and “understood well” by others. Therefore, emotions are reined and chained and they are freed only in secured environment, in which “no one around”.

Notice loops in l, h, g & y

PICTURE B: Notice loops in l, h, g & y

Ok, how do we know how emotional a person is? Is crying the only criterion? I agree that those who shed tears more often than not are emotional people. But those who don’t aren’t? Let’s find it out from handwriting. In order to keep anything whatsoever, you need space. If you have too much space to store emotions in your life, it shows in your handwriting. Loops are where you stock emotions. In picture B, notice the loops in l’s, g and y. (The loops in upper and lower zones refer to emotions employed in various areas, such as work, family, romance and religion. It’s another study altogether, which we can’t club with this article.) For the moment, I would like you to understand that the loopier the writing and heavier the writing pressure, the more emotions a person has. Also, the cup-like formations between two connected letters (e.g. see the cup between two l’s and ‘u’ and ‘n’) is also indicative of a person’s capacity to contain emotions.

Slant of the writing is left. The handwriting shows the writer might have experienced trauma.

PICTURE C: Slant of the writing is left. The handwriting shows the writer might have experienced trauma.

However, that does not mean that he will be emotional to boot. Whether he will express it or not is known by the slant and pressure of his writing. The heavier the pressure, the greater the emotional intensity and force. In handwriting analysis, a writer with straight slant (with moderate pressure) invariably uses judgment to make decisions. He is ruled by his head, not heart. Some may see him as cold or unemotional. It’s not true. He does have emotions but has no need to express them. The writer does not express emotions until they become extreme or build up over time. Similarly, people with a certain left slant (Picture C) also desist from being emotional. They are socially withdrawn and all emotions are reserved for their personal lives. Unless their signatures indicate that they will be bubbly in public, such writers are detached and withdrawn most of the time. The favourite song of such people happens to be Private Emotions.

tears4

My tears are for all to see...

There are various slants of writing, which reflect how a person is likely to react in emotional situations. Graphology students are told to pay special attentions to slants that indicate the emotional outlay of the person. If the slant is not determined correctly, it’s likely that the analyst will go wrong. For example, a stroke in the handwriting may tell us that the writer is ill-tempered, but if he has a straight slant and a firm baseline, he won’t blow up as fast as someone with the right slant. Clearly, the same ill-temper stroke will give different results in different slants of writing. If a girl with a certain right slant in her handwriting gets involved with a guy who writes with a straight or left slant, she will have to wait for long to know whether he likes her not.  While talking to him at the emotional level, she will feel as if she is continuously drawing water from a deep well. By the way, after analysing  the handwriting of Ms Better-Than-Google.com, who writes with an extreme right slant, I had warned her against getting involved with a left-slant writer because a relationship with him can never provide her fulfillment. My warning to her had a reaon: I’ve found that most people with extreme right slant get involved with the left-slant writers. It’s because opposites attract.

By the way, what do we do with the tears with which we started? Let’s leave them here. As I said, nothing dries faster than tears. They will vanish soon.

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HANDWRITING ANALYSIS OF RUNA & VISHAL SHAH

Runa Shah's handwriting sample
Runa Shah

In this post, I am analysing the handwriting samples of Runa Shah and her husband Vishal.  Well, there are many good things about these two handwriting, but I will restrict myself to their problems. Vishal, please share your problems with your wife and take it from me that you can bank on her decisions. She can provide you good support. You have to be less pessimistic, Vishal because you always believe that nothing is going to work out for you. When you talk about any  of your problems to your wife, you approach the subject with a great deal of negativity.  Vishal, for some reasons, mainly financial, you see see your future dark. It’s likely that some of your decisions that went wrong in the past are haunting you even now. I see in your handwriting that you are always filled with self-doubt and suspect your capabilities to accomplish your tasks. Surprisingly, you don’t even like to talk about it to anyone. I must tell you, Vishal, that most of the problems you are facing these have roots in your indiscipline and your reluctance to take any risks in life. You wife, on the other hand, must be telling you often to dream bigger. But most of the time, you find yourself playing chess with petty issues and fail to set big targets in life.

Vishal Shah

Vishal Shah

Lack of trust is another major issue in your life, Vishal. You don’t know how much to trust the people around you and you suspect their motives most of the time. You have to understand, Vishal, that you don’t exist in isolation and sometimes others’ interests and choices are likely to cross your path. Therefore, you must be open to suggestions from others.  I am asking you to  open up because you are defensive. You don’t have to look too far for help. I think you have got a worthy companion in your wife. She speaks straight and clear. If you ever want to find a frank opinion on an issue, ask her. She will tell you.

Runa, I think I have praised you a lot. Well, that’s because you deserve it. But I have to tell you something. I know you have a great deal of patience, but you need to understand Vishal much more. The reason is he does not say much. Vishal does not feel comfortable in opening up. You have to ignore his coldness and dispel his fears. You should also stop snapping at him. You handwriting tell me, Runa, that though in private you are a confident person and do not doubt your abilities, but when you are in a group of people you feel small about yourself and don’t miss any opprtunity to belittle yourself. Therefore, you choose to sit in a corner rather than being a part of the crowd.

POP PEN KILLER

CORRECTION

CORRECTION

There is one suggestion for both of you: double the size of your signatures. Practise the new signature for at least 50 times a day for about a month. Vishal, you signature should have all the letters of your name (currently you write just the first letter of your name) and it ought to be underlined. Runa, please change the way you write your small case ‘f’. In CORRECTION, you see that the lower portion of the letter f is round, not as angular as you see in your handwriting. Practise the new ‘f’ for about 40 days on at least three pages every day. Vishal, write “I will go and get it for you” for at least three pages every day on ruled paper. Write for about 40 days and make sure you leave a margin of one inch on both sides of the pages. Pay attention to the arrow marks in CORRECTION. Your lower case g’s nd y’s should be round at the bottom and they their tails should not be hanging at the bottom; they should come all the way up. All the best, both of you!

If you liked the article, do post your comment in the space below and let your friends know about this science. If you want me to write about something in particular, please do suggest me. All suggestions are welcome. And… if you did not like the article, send me a stinker. Also, I’d like to inform you all that some of my past articles on handwriting are now available on  the website of Handwriting University International, USA. There are many more interesting articles available there. Do check them out.

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18 thoughts on “Miss Emotion, I’m not in love with you

  1. Here goes one more feather to your hat.. Very informative and interesting article.. Now i really want to know the inspiration behind your thought process.. [:)]

    Keep Writing.. [:D]

  2. another good does vishwas…..emotions r an important part of our lives….i even came to know about myeslf by reading this week’s write choice….i came to know how emotional i am !!!
    i hav straight slant in my handwriting.and also hav normal loops in l, g n y- nt that big nor too small…so it comes to a conclusion that i m not too emotional nor do i desist emotions…i think wat i concluded abt me is rit…

    thanks…n do keep writing in the same way…..
    Aditi

  3. Sir,

    I have never heard of or recommended altering the lower case f shape from an angle which connects (fast mind and fluidity) to a rounder shaped f loop. I do not see a “better” or “worse” trait in the the shapes of round vs angled in this letter (f). I would agree that all lower zone loops such as y or g end above the baseline to avoid the “fear of success” , but I do not see fear of success in Runa’s original handwriting sample. I also do not feel it is prudent to recommend making the lower loop smaller (unless the client specifically request a lower energy/ sex drive or imagination). So, in other words, I would like you to re-evaluate the grapho-therapy suggestions or elaborate the logic behind them inside this article. Sincerely, BART BAGGETT Handwriting University USA

  4. You stated: “For the moment, I would like you to understand that the loopier the writing, the more emotions a person has. ”

    I strongly disagree with this statement… , the accurate statement should read ” I would like you to understand that the loopier the “lower zones” are in handwriting, the more “imagination” a person has.

    Emotions are pen pressure and slant… not loops.
    Please re-read your source material, those comments about loops were not found in Handwriting University literature and I do not agree with them.

    Sincerely,

    BART BAGGETT

  5. Dear Bart,

    Thanks you very much for your comment. I’m an ardent fan of yours and it feel great to have you visit this log. I’m sure there is much more to learn from you, however, these are the facts, which I took into account while recommending change in her letter ‘f’.

    1) I have discovered invariably that angular ‘f’s’ like Runa’s reflect stress in relationships.

    2) Also, the letter in question does not technically fall under the ‘fluid f’ (as taught by the Handwriting University) because the fluidity is getting twisted (in some instances) in the lower zone itself and the fluidity is being hampered by the angularity. For example, please notice ‘f’ in “also if” and “develop myself”. As you also suggest that well-formed loops in ‘f’ is indicative of a balance between planning and execution.

    3) At no place have I recommended any change in the size of the lower zone.

    4) I thoroughly agree with you that pressure is more indicative of emotional intensity and loops show a great deal of imagination. Because I did not discuss the pen pressure in this write-up, the subtle difference could not be brought out and the two words (imagination and emotion) were linked. But anyone pursuing a course in handwriting analysis from Handwriting University should be able to understand the difference.

    As we have discussed, this blog is more meant to fuel curiosity among readers to learn the science.

    Regards,

    Vishwas

  6. Hi Vishwas,
    This is another article which touches the heart. This subject of Graphology is getting more and more interesting and revealing. I continue to be amazed at such insights into a person’s life being provided thro’ study of handwriting.

    Thanks.

  7. Dear Vishwas

    Though i have faith in Graphology however now a days people hardly write anything most of us only type. I dont think that since i left college i have written more than 10 pages in that case gow can graphotherapy effect us.

  8. Hi
    Once again, it was an article of general interest n sumthin which affects all of us. Evrythin u wrote was absolutely true.

    P.S. Its fun standin at d doorway of a train at nite with d wind in ur face. One of d delights of Mumbai!

  9. Were you writing this through your tears? There are lots of tiny errors while normally your copy is largely error-free. And, pray, what’s anserine?

  10. Hi Rajeev!

    Thanks a lot for posting the comment. I just went through the copy again and realised that I had indeed left too many errors in it. I have taken them out of the post. Some might still be there. If there are more, please let me know.

    Regards,

    Vishwas

  11. Mr.Vishwas,
    I would like you to analyse my handwriting. where to should i send? Your article in Mumbai mirror i have read with interest and was wondering why it was discontinued.Am happy i stumbled down your website while reading article in timeswellness site.

  12. hi my name is mary. I noticed one of the pictures in your write up and would really appreciate if I could use it. It’s the one with the eye in the sky crying. I would be using the picture in my poetry book for my year long project at school. I would be givig credit to everyone who let me use their pictures. If you could please email me back at joplin7m@gmail.com I would appreciate it so very much. Thank you.

  13. Brilliant article – I had a respected lecturer who introduced me to the concept of graphology and it’s good to see there are others out there who feel about it too. Was wondering where you sourced the images from? Are they your own? May I request permission to use one for private, non-commercial purposes? Thank you in advance.

  14. hey.. vishwas..

    I used to read to your articles regularly that used to get published in “bangalore mirror” really long ago… i accidently came across this page.. it is really good and i really miss reading your articles..:( :(.. do i get to see that “write choice” column again??

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