She feels others’ eyes on her… all the time

Are all these greenies staring at me? Am I too red?
Are all these greenies staring at me? Am I too red?

At an office party last week, all of a sudden I found myself sounding saintly as I muttered in anger: “Why do people drink so much when they can’t handle liquor?” I made the statement because I noticed that one of my colleagues was very obediently returning to Mother Earth probably a few pegs more than she had consumed that night. Don’t be judgmental; she was just being generous to Nature. Not her fault, I guess. The party was remarkable, the drinks…irresistible, the ambience…delectable and the atmosphere…unpredictable. I am sure like all of us she thoroughly enjoyed the bash, the vomiting notwithstanding. Who cares if the end was a fine blend of sickness and bliss? At least I had not when on two occasions I had found myself in the same situation – one was about three years ago in Calcutta and the second, a year later in Mumbai.

Hi! I am shy
Hi! I am shy

During the one-hour train journey on my way back home that night, I allowed my thoughts to drift away and recall what had happened on the party night in November 2005 in Calcutta when I was sloshed for the first time in my life. How I got drunk that day was simple: I was too thirsty before reaching the party venue and I began drinking rum like water (First-timers’ goof-ups, you see). And I simply don’t remember when the liquor hit me so badly. It was too funny, I tell you. I vaguely remember that, much to the consternation of others, I had snatched the microphone from the DJ’s hand and had begun to sing an odd song. I think it was a ghazal! (LOL) Everybody had started booing me.

Let me shed all my inhibitions
Let me shed all my inhibitions

Thoroughly embarrassed, I gave the mike back and then let myself loose on the dance floor, scarcely knowing which way I swung. I shook hips almost with everyone. It was a complete disaster. (In comparison, the young lady at the party last week was an apostle of elegance and poise. She might have just accidentally got drunk, you know. Let’s bid the innocent soul a goodbye here.) The morning after my Calcutta party was horrifying: it was the first hangover of my life and I puked, puked and just puked. Somehow I had managed to go to office.

Wow! I am myself now!
Wow! I am myself now!

Ok. No more flashback. Circa 2008. When I came to office the following day, people were tattling about the party and comfortably swimming in who-did-what chats. One of the colleagues then told me about a man whose behaviour after getting drunk was shockingly different from his normal conduct. “Some people, who are normally reserved and introverted, become outgoing under the influence of liquor?” she said.

True or false? What do you say?

I think it’s true. Few pegs down, many quiet, aloof, silent, reticent, distant, uncommunicative people transform into garrulous and gregarious bums. I personally know some of them and I am sure you are also acquainted with a few such people, aren’t you? Let me help you identify such people: more often than not, you will hear such people say: “After a few drinks, I feel more open and relaxed. Liquor does so much good to me!” Have you ever attempted to find out how why such individuals behave so differently when they are high?

Rising humps of ‘m’ and ‘n’

According to psychology, they are self-conscious people who feel they are being watched by others all the time. From the moment such a person enters a public gathering or party, she/he feels that everybody is looking only at them. They find extreme difficulty in getting over this feeling of being observed. As a result, the behaviour of such people is always calibrated and modulated under normal circumstances. But as soon as they are under the influence of intoxicants, which temporarily suspends their self-consciousness, they behave like an unshackled animal; they feel free to do and say what they actually like, and not what will be liked by others. In handwriting analysis, self-consciousness is seen in the rising humps of lower case ‘m’ and ‘n’ (see picture A).

America’s top graphologist Bart Baggett says: “When one is feeling self-conscious, one becomes aware of even the smallest of one’s own actions. Such awareness can impair one’s ability to perform complex actions. For example, a piano player may ‘choke’, lose confidence, and even lose the ability to perform the moment they notice the audience. As self-consciousness fades, one may regain the ability to ‘lose one’s self’. A person especially prone to self-consciousness may be labelled shy or introverted…”

Okay, but not all self-conscious people who are quiet, introverted and focused (shown partially by the small size of handwriting) explode after drinking. Here, we are talking about the self-conscious people who attempt to snap all self-restricting strings under the influence of liquor. Therefore, the presence of rising humps in ‘m’ and ‘n’ alone in an individual’s writing are not sufficient for a graphologist to conclude that a writer will go berserk after getting drunk. The handwriting should have other strokes and a particular style.

Circles in place of dots over \'i\' & \'j\'
Circle in place of dot over i & j

Besides the rising humps, such an individual’s handwriting may some strokes reflecting the desire for attention — shown by three things in handwriting analysis. First, a signature much larger in size in comparison to the rest of the writing; second, circles in place of i and j dots (see picture B); and finally an exaggerated upswing in the ending stroke (see picture C).


Despite secretly nurturing desires to be outgoing, friendly and chatty, writers who are self-conscious desist from doing what they like, because their principal fear is: What will others say? What will they think?

Upswing in the end stroke
Upswing in the end stroke

Handwriting analysts say the other possible reason why an individual does not do what he or she likes is lack of confidence and self-worth (indicated by the low placement of t-bars in picture D). An individual who thinks low of himself will think that people might not like what he or she does. For instance, a study says many men and women in the West desist from hitting the dance floor because they don’t like their physique.

T bars low on the stem

If any of you reading this feels restricted by such baseless fears, try writing with descending hump (see picture E) and higher t-bars for a few weeks. I guarantee you will feel much better and begin to like yourself. After all, what’s the harm in flashing your middle finger once in a while to tell others to mind their own business?

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Snehal’s handwriting

SNEHAL’S DILEMMA

In this post, I am analysing the handwriting sample (see picture) of Snehal who sent me her handwriting via email. You are saying that you are too confused about what to do after graduation.

Hello Vishwas! Snehal here. I require your help. I’m very confused as to what to do after my graduation… I am facing lack of proper direction! I plan to do an MBA course (prob’ly in HR)… but I look fwd to consider more options so plz guide me as to which field/work will suit me d best.  Thx! Regards Snehal 🙂

Correct \'f\'
Correct lower case ‘f’

Snehal, your handwriting shows you will fare well in profession involving interaction with people. Desk job is not for you. Therefore, the stream you have selected for yourself is just alright. So, I believe your handwriting does not need much correction. All you need to do is plan a little bit more. Just open the top loop in your lower case ‘f’ (see picture G). All the best!

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Descending humps
Descending Humps

Do post your comments in the space below and tell me about your experiences. If there is any particular issue you want me to handle, do not hesitate to write to me. (vishwas.heathcliff@gmail.com)

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3 thoughts on “She feels others’ eyes on her… all the time

  1. I always felt that everybody felt elated and relaxed after a limited drink. Uneasiness and vomitting takes over any person once drunk beyond tolerable limits. I still can’t believe that Graphology can help a person on this as well. Now, I have started feeling that Graphology may have the power to treat alcoholics and addicts.
    This is a very routine topic that might be bothering more than 60% of readers. Everybody is starved for attention. But, during the course, we forget that we need to be cheerful and happy-go person to get somebody to smile back at us. A helping, supportive and caring person will definitely get back good friends in return.

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