Last week, a suicide note landed on my desk along with a news story. It was of a girl who had killed herself on March 12 because she had not prepared well for her B. Com exams. The 20-year-old had stated she alone was responsible for the act, and that nobody was forcing her into taking the extreme step.
In the past few years, many examinees like the young girl, fearing failure, have ended their lives. Studies show that in most cases, students commit suicide for having failed to live up to the expectations of their parents who want their children to be the “best”; aspire to fulfill their dreams through their offspring; weigh down the tender shoulders with their obscure hopes and unwittingly push them on the verge of suicide.
According to psychology, failure to fulfill parents’
expectations gives birth to a sense of guilt among children who subsequently begin to hate themselves and seek to wipe out their identity. In graphology, the dislike for oneself and the sense of worthlessness, which engenders the force behind suicide, is seen in a few strokes in handwriting. One of them is strike-through lines in signatures (pic A), which I saw in the signature of the girl who killed herself. These straight lines pierce through the signature, indicating the writers’ utter unhappiness with their situation. If combined with rock-bottom self-esteem and depression, the desire to terminate one’s existence intensifies.
If your signature has any such strokes, I recommend that you expressly remove them. Because every time one pierces one’s name in the signature, the subconscious mind receives as many messages to stab and hurt oneself and therefore the tendency to wipe out one’s identity is reinforced. Removing such piercing strokes from signature and writing it with clarity and legibility will help you like yourself and manage your affairs with aplomb.
MONCY MUST PLAN
This week I’m analysing the handwriting of Mirror reader (pic B) Moncy who hates to plan and runs after instant gratification of his desires because he doesn’t like to wait. His relationship with his parents is strained and they often complain that Moncy is careless and does not handle his affairs responsibly. He believes that his friends’ parents love him more than his own.
In classroom, Moncy is a slow learner and faces difficulty in making quick decisions. He thinks his future is bleak and he’s depressed because things are not working out as he’d expected. In his current relationships too, he’s stressed.
POP A PEN KILLER
Moncy, separate the first name from your last name in your signature and write your full name. Practise it a few times every day. Besides, write “I will surely live freely” (pic C) on every alternate line on ruled paper, leaving a margin of one inch of both sides, for 30 days. Bring your y’s all the way up and pay attention to the zones of your letters (pic D). The height of upper zone letters (‘l’ and ‘f’ in surely and freely) should be at least twice the height of the middle zone letters (s, u, r, e). In other words, middle zone and upper zone can’t be of the same height (your handwriting pic E). All the best, Moncy!