Guys, I’m sad today. (Don’t go by the grin in my picture above.) I’m indeed upset. Reason: Shefali said no. Not to me, yaar! She turned down the marriage proposal of my best friend Lundroo who is quite perturbed. My pal had proposed to her about a couple of years ago and she had rejected him in a flash. You may wonder why Lundroo is disturbed about something that happened a long time ago. I agree with you. But he still thinks about Shefali and is unable to leave her behind. As a friend, I feel sad to see Lundroo playing Devdas.
Many of you will agree that it’ll be appropriate to convince Lundroo into forgetting the rejection and move on, because the tendency to live in the past not only screws up one’s assessment of the present, but also cripples the planning for the future.
Many Mirror readers confide in me about how they are haunted by their past (mostly failure in business, broken trust, cheating by partners etc) and they keep thinking about it. Lundroo is in a similar situation. He is unable to forget Shefali. Had he tried, he’d have found another partner by now. But he doesn’t. He savours old memories and refuses to slough them off because he finds security in the past and the unpredictability of the future scares him.
The tendency to get hooked to the past is seen in a number of strokes in handwriting, especially in a certain narrowness in the left margin (pic A), which reflects the writer’s need to relive those bygone days. If you also live in your past, widen the left margin of your handwriting through a regimental 30-day graphotherapeutic exercise. I had suggested this exercise to Mirror reader Annie in this column on October 28 last year. She was unable to get over a past relationship and was confused about how to handle the marriage proposal her parents had brought for her. Recently, Annie sent me a note. Hear what she says: “Thanks, Vishwas. It [the exercise] did help. I see things clearly now. I’m married now and I’m determined to make things work well. I won’t allow the past or any trace of it to interfere with the present and the future. Thanks again for your help. It helped me BIG TIME :)”
FEAR OF FUTURE
This week I’m analysing the handwriting sample (pic B) of Mirror reader Jaydeep Agrawal. Three things that jump out of your handwriting are: you lack discipline, you can’t make up your mind quickly; and very often you take a decision that subverts and sabotages all your efforts. You take a great deal of time to arrive at a decision and need support most of the time. And after you have decided on something, you either don’t execute it or go against that decision at the last moment. And then you regret having taken that decision.
POP A PEN KILLER
Jaydeep, write “I am getting ready to get it going” on every alternate line on ruled paper for 15 minutes every day for a month. Make sure you remove the initial strokes (pic B) and more importantly, the down strokes of g’s and y’s should cut at the baseline, not below it (pic C). Remove the balloon enveloping half your signature (pic D). Also, make some of your m’s and n’s pointed (pic E). All the best!