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AAMIR HATES BEING TOLD HE IS WRONG

Aamir Khan

Hi Aamir!

As an actor, you’re sure incredible. Some of the movies you acted in are my favourites too. However, I wanted to know you beyond your acting, at a deeper level; to understand the real face behind many reel personas. People know you as an accomplished and versatile actor.  What you do on the screen is for everyone to see. Here, I’ll disclose those chapters of your life, which very few know about. It’s mere an attempt to know you through your handwriting without being judgmental. So, permit me, Aamir, to strip you for your millions of fans. Here we go:

Aamir Khan's handwriting sample

Aamir, the first thing I notice in your handwriting is that most of your decisions in life are taken by your heart. You are a very, very sentimental person with broad range of emotions — from extreme highs to absolute lows. You feel every emotional situation intensely. In one moment you are too happy and then after some time, without reasons not even known to you, you feel utterly low and end up exhausting yourself emotionally. You find these mood swings very disturbing and at times you feel that you can’t produce anything anymore. That’s when you go back to your shell for some time, recharge yourself in solitude and come out with more ideas and strength.

You must have observed in your life that you have a get-it-done-now-and-worry-later attitude, which has landed you in several emotional troubles. You are too quick in anything related to emotions. Be it anger, love, passion or even jealousy. And then comes delayed realisation and you hear these sentences echoing in your mind: “I shouldn’t have said that. I shouldn’t have done that. I should have thought about it before doing… blah, blah.”

You frequently feel the need to be told that you are loved and wanted. And if you don’t get that from your loved ones, you feel terribly hurt. If the situation persists, you tend to move on to a person who you think will say it and make you feel better. (Kiran, now you know how you can handle your man. More is coming; keep reading.) You have a problem working in a group because more often than not, you believe that all others are conspiring against you. You think that people in the film industry are talking against you and they want to bring about your downfall. Let me tell you, Aamir, your handwriting shows that most of these fears are  the byproducts of your imagination. To a great extent, this attitude is the reason you keep yourself aloof. You feel if you let anyone come close, they will hurt you emotionally because you take all comments to your heart.

Criticism is like chilli for Aamir

People dealing with you have to very cautious what they say because one wrong word and without their knowing, Aamir will distance himself from them. If a friend, Mr A, says anything against you or your ideas and opinions, you quickly conclude that Mr A is from the “enemy camp” and you begin to distrust him and hate him. And you do that very secretly. You don’t tell anyone about your hatred. Also, you also have intellectual sensitivity. You take it personally when anybody opposes your ideas and philosophy without first praising yours. I have a feeling that you stays away from all award functions because of some individuals who at one point in time berated you, belittled your achievements or undermined your potentials. Because you have a long-lasting memory, you have not forgotten those insults. And just to express your displeasure and register your protest, you stay away from these functions. You then work hard to show “them” that you can do a better job.  You don’t like being told “how do do” things; you BELIEVE you know how to do your job. You think you’re always right. People working with you sometimes get frustrated because you tend to go back to a scene or a shot again and again, again and again, again and again just to make sure the final product is nothing less than superb. Your need for perfection is largely driven by a desire to avoid criticism. You indeed tire yourself considerably just to achieve the perfection.

In personal relationships, you must have heard yourself say it to your partner very often: “Why did you say that? Why did you do that?” Nothing hurts you more than criticisms, especially if it comes from a partner. They leave you in enormous pain. You also hear yourself saying, “I don’t care what others say about me. I give a damn”. But you KNOW, Aamir, that the truth is you are really bothered about what people say. (Kiran, another revelation which you can make use of. Probably his first life partner would also have found it useful.)

Hey Aamir, tell me honestly: Aren’t you too concerned about the way you look? Don’t you stop wearing a particular dress just because someone said  it once that it did not look good on you? One more thing: As a child you were subjected to excessive criticism and humiliation by people close to you.

A lot more could be said about you, Aamir. But I think it’s enough for the moment. Despite all this, you’re a wonderful actor and I won’t worry about any of the things mentioned above till I am required to deal with you at a personal level. At that point, I will surely use graphotherapy to suggest you a few changes in handwriting. One of them would be: take out the loops from your d’s and t’s. It will help you deal with your sensitivity.

All the best for Ghajini!

To read this and many other articles on graphology, visit the website of Handwriting University International, USA

ARE WOMEN REALLY ATTRACTED TO JERKS?

Women say I am a hunk. They drool over me. They are crazy about me. But I ask all of them: would they really continue to like me so much if they saw my handwriting looked this what you see in the picture below?

Most women are attracted only to jerks, a newspaper report said a few weeks ago. I’ll reserve my personal opinion on it for a while and recapitulate what the psychological report was all about. It said: “Women don’t go deliberately looking for a jerk. Women are not bad people at all. It’s the opposite [in most cases]. But women are completely controlled by this ancient mating instinct. Therefore, they have no other choice but to go after any strong, dominant, untamable male. Or any male who can make her feel all those intense, uncontrollable feelings she lives for. They have no other choice but to fall for these types of males who play hard to get. Women don’t really want jerks. They probably want a nice guy. But what women want and what women need are two different things. Their subconscious need is to feel and feel and feel, for which women will go uncontrollably after what they need, not what they want…”

Opinions may vary on women’s yearning for jerks, but arguably many girls burn their fingers in romantic associations, howsoever careful they think they are. They meet a guy and instantly feel they’ve known each other for many centuries. They slobber all over their boyfriends and begin feeling strongly for them. But soon, many of them get back in touch with reality; spring gets over in no time, autumn arrives before time and this is what rings in their mind: “Thank God! Now I know why we didn’t keep in touch for the past 2,000 years.”

...so... would you go around with me if I wrote like this man, Thomas Cane, a hardcore criminal? It shows handwriting works, ladies! (Picture courtesy: www.handwritinguniversity.com)

Some girls find out the truth about their object of affection in the first few meetings and loudly scream: “Interruptus”. May Lord reward such chicks! But in the lives of many others, sanity procrastinates in coming back. Subsequently, they realise they have gone much too deep into the relationship with their dream men and return from there looks tedious and painful because there is too much emotional investment. Like tenacious and novice depositors, such women want good returns even from lame horses. As a corollary, they lose their principal money too and squander their peace of mind.

In October this year alone, four such pretty young ladies sought my appointment. (Now, you know why I pay more attention to man-woman relationships in my writings.) Anyway, ensuring their anonymity, I’ll discuss the case of one of them and leave it for you to decide whether we should take the “jerk report” with a pinch of salt.

This is what Swati was in her relationship before she broke free

Meet Swati. She is 24 and she works for a private bank and earns about Rs7 lakh a year. She is a looker and she comes from a respectable family. She has loads of friends who unreservedly call her a sweet, loving and caring person who is always available for her pals in need. I too have known her for about a year and I’m convinced she’s a lovely girl.

So, Miss Saccharin Swati gave me a call one evening and wanted to see me urgently. We met the next day over lunch. She told me she had been seeing a top official working for a Gujarat-based oil company for about a year and they broke up recently. Why did they part ways? Oh, nothing serious; it was over a few trivial issues: he was abusive with her, he did not respect her or her friends, made fun of her likes and dislikes and always belittled her achievements and job (he called her a boo-boo banker). There were a couple of more minor problems between them: he slapped her more often than not and exhibited high level of perversion during intimate moments. That’s it.

Swati felt like being on a bed of thorn as long as she was with him.

Swati was sick of his abuse-and-anger-followed-by-apology syndrome and cajoled her heart into agreeing to abandon him. Sanity, like most fourth grade employees, came late and when it did, she wasted no time and ejected herself out of the aircraft in turbulence.

She showed me the guy’s handwriting and wanted me to tell her if she had taken the right decision by dumping him. How great is an Indian naari! Even after getting such a godly treatment from him, she was unable to convince herself that he indeed was a god. So you must see what this god’s handwriting looked like. (Because I don’t have the original handwriting, I present here an imitation of it.)

Picture A

In picture A, look carefully at the t-bar. Do you notice a hook on the right end? This hook is indicative of misplaced anger. It means subconscious anger in this person’s life is unresolved and he tends to misplace it on people he meets. That shows he used to blow up his fuse very often with Swati for no fault of hers. The poor girl always wondered what she did to deserve those abuses. In the same picture, notice the twist in the lower zone of letter y (such y’s were predominant in his handwriting). This twist, in combination with other disorganised factors in his handwriting, reflects on his perversion in sexual imagination.

Picture B

In picture B, we have similar problem in the letter ‘y’. The tail goes back to the left and stays there. That shows the writer has had issues with his physical life in the past and now most of his decisions in the present relationship are coloured by his past experiences. Such writers always subconsciously tend to compare their present partners with their past ones (whether it will be in positive or negative way is determined by the overall organisation of the handwriting sample). The inky ‘a’ in the same word in the picture shows the person is extremely sensual. It’s not a negative trait per se, but in a disorganised handwriting like this, it adds to the writer’s perversion. A few other factors in the same handwriting Swati showed me reflected that the poor girl was too cautious in saying anything to him because he used to take to heart even casual remarks and harmless jokes. (Once he became offensive just because she appreciated John Abraham for the actor’s body and asked her boyfriend to join a gym.) That was indeed quite frustrating for Swati because she was not able to speak her mind and communicate with him freely.

Picture C

Similarly, in picture C, notice the variable pressure in the t-bar and its clubbed ending. When there is extra flow of ink from the pen at the end of a stroke, it becomes really dangerous because it shows that the writer is capable of being brutally violent. Also, the communication letter i.e. ‘O’ in the picture is damaged because there are multiple loops inside the oval. This particular trait shows the writer’s inclination to turn things in his favour by twisting, manipulating and misrepresenting facts.

Now, the question is why Swati stayed in this relationship for so long and how she fell for someone like him. The first answer I found in her handwriting. Because of her low opinion about herself, she thought she would not get anyone like him again. And second, the guy just knew how to get her back: he would praise her very often.

You may not see his thorny side

The answer to the second question was in the guy’s signature. Incidentally, one of the things signatures tells us is how a writer wants others to see him or her. In this guy’s case, the style of his signature did not tally with his overall handwriting, which indicated that there was a big difference between what he was and what he showed to others. Is it clear? That is why many partners discover a few months after meeting that the person is “no longer the way he projected himself to be in the beginning”. In other words, signature shows how a person behaves in office with his clients and his handwriting tells how he behaves at home. Don’t we all know some people in our lives who are very nice to others but awfully nasty to their own family members? Did you ever try finding out why?  We’ll do it together. Some day, I will discuss how we can discover whether what he is showing is his true face or he will change after the honeymoon is over.

Now, the final words on the ‘jerk report’. Well, it’s true to some extent. If you are a woman reading this, I have a question for you: Haven’t you found that you feel painfully attracted to men who just don’t seem to understand that you like them and they ignore you all the time? Well, they may not be the best men on earth, nevertheless they have a power to attract you. They are challenging. And some women love challenges. Who are these women and how we can spot them through handwriting, I’ll tell you later.

Thanks for your time and thanks for reading till the end! I’m waiting to hear from you. Do post your comment in the space below.

ADITI IS ADORABLE FOR HER PALS

Aditi's handwriting

In this post, I’m analysing the handwriting of a girl whom I will call Aditi. The first thing I notice in my analysis is her ability to be sarcastic and slice people with her words. But she doesn’t do that often. Secondly, if you ever participated in a contest where the winner will be the one with a number of friends, Aditi will surely come in top 5. But despite having too many friends, she does not readily share her private life with anyone and rarely shows emotional behaviour. In fact, at mental level she keeps a distance from people around her. She loves partying, shopping, indulging and is very practical. She gets along well almost everyone she meets. People like Aditi a lot because she is a very good listener and she keeps her counsel to herself and guards others’ secrets too. A few charming thing about this girl: she likes herself and is very confident about what she does.  She’s plain and simple and what you see of her is what you get. No façade. The only thing that frustrates her is that she takes a lot of time in making up her mind and deciding what she should do. Lack of concentration and organisation is an issue with Aditi. A cruel treatment she got from a close family member many years ago keeps her emotions in check.

POP A PEN KILLER

Correct D

Aditi, first of all I will recommend a change in the way you write your d’s. Write “I can do it,  I will do, it I must do it” for a month on ruled paper. Write on every alternate line and leave one inch margin on both sides of the paper. DO NOT violate the margins. Your d’s should start the way you see in “Correct D”. Currently, while writing small case ‘d’, you draw the stem first and then make the loop on the left. In the changed ‘d’ you will do it the other way round: first the loop, then go up and come back retracing the same line. My handwriting analysis teacher Mr Mohan Bose used to say in a number of cases, people who write d’s as you do now face complications in their stomach after 30 years of age.

Correct T

The second thing you have to keep in mind while writing the exercise is: do not throw your hand while crossing t-bars. As of now, your t-bars are on the right side of the stem. Place it evenly on the stem as you see in “Correct T”. All the best! Do let me know how it goes. I would love to hear from you. By the way, your signature is absolutely alright. You don’t need to change it.

YOU’RE SCREWED IF YOU’VE GOT A BOY-FIEND

Ladies, I'm a nice man. It's just that I have the heart of a devil. Wanna play?

Some statements are like bad cold and cough. Almost everyone gets it or gives it. One such is often heard during break-ups. And the gem is: “You’ll never find anyone like me again!” When someone said this to me once upon a time, I wondered, “My goodness! I should hope not! If I don’t want you, why would I want someone like you?”

Similarly, a close friend decided to move on a couple of years ago after her search for fulfilment in a romantic relationship hit a dead-end. She ignored his cough ’n’ cold and married a fine gentleman last year. She has turned out to be a terrific wife: she is a loving and caring woman who always forgives her husband when she’s wrong! They make a lovely couple and I’m happy for them.

A few months before getting married, Cynthia (That’s what I’ll call her) spoke to me about her ex-boyfriend. I’ll share it with you in brief. For her studies, Cynthia had gone to London for a few years. During her stay in the UK, she met Sid with whom she went steady for a few months. Things didn’t go well between them and as they went along, Cynthia realised Sid was not the right guy for her. Soon, they parted with mutual understanding and later she returned to India.

Honey, I want you back.... NOW

For a few months there was no news of him. Apparently, they had moved on and Cynthia was now committed to Samar with plans for future. But just when she thought everything was going fine, Sid resurfaced. He started making efforts to reconnect with Cynthia. She politely rejected his overtures. But he began badgering her with calls, emails and text messages. Cynthia was adamant, she refused to give way. Gradually, Sid became belligerent and stroppy. On a couple of occasions he even flew down to India to persuade her into making a comeback. His mindless doggedness and tenacity troubled Cynthia, but she had made up her mind to resist his foolhardiness. However, the uncertainty that surrounded the whole thing and Sid’s misdirected motives sometimes rattled her.

Cynthia discussed at length the entire story with me over chat and told me she was not sure what to do. “I am a little worried. I don’t know what Sid is going to do. We broke up because it wasn’t going anywhere. And now, he’s pestering me and persecuting me…”

Sid's handwriting

Cynthia was right. “A relationship,” Woody Allen once said, “is like a shark. It has to constantly move forward or it dies. And I think what we (most of us) got on our hands is a dead shark.” Apparently, Cynthia wanted a sprightly and spry shark.

She instantly emailed me Sid’s handwriting on a greeting card he had presented to her in the UK. As I saw his handwriting unfold slowly on the screen of my laptop, the first word that zipped through my lips was: “FUCK”. I told her straight away that under no circumstances should she have anything to do with that man. He was sure a danger.

As I analysed Sid’s handwriting, I discovered that he suffered from the out-of-the-sight-out-of-the-mind syndrome. It meant that mentally he was with Cynthia as long as she was in front of him. But the moment she was physically absent, he would seek out “others” and hit on other women. I told Cynthia that this man had some serious conflict with women because of his awful relationship with his mother. Cynthia then revealed that indeed he was not at all on good terms with his mother and he hated her.

Be careful! Your heart may be hurt

Now, click on Sid’s handwriting sample to enlarge it and look carefully at the sharp hooks in the lower zone letters y’s and g’s. The claw-like formation in the two letters are really ominous and if you see it in the handwriting of your lovers, please be careful. Such claws are often found in the handwriting of criminals. These hook-like formations are dangerous because they show up in that zone of the handwriting which reflects the writer’s relationship with his romantic partners, his professional health and his physical life. They are heart-breakers.

When I told Cynthia that this person can be physically abusive and violent, she said she had heard him talk about getting murderous if he did not get what he wanted. The muddiness in the strokes, caused by the irregular flow of ink because of an unstable pressure of writing, is indicative of his unsound mind. Such a writer can never think of his partner with respect and would rather look at her as an object of sexual gratification. During intercourse too, such writers can be violent with their partners.

I sound sweet, but I am not. Watch out! I will claw you.

About such hook formations, famous graphologist Andrea McNichol says: “The claw means… bitterness and bad instincts. He will seem to be the nicest person on the earth. No one would suspect this person of having an evil bone in his body. But then, he is setting you up only to stab you in the back; he will end up clawing you…. This is most frightening because you don’t know the knife is coming. The claw appears frequently in the lower zones of rapists. That does not mean that all people with such claws are rapists…”

My conclusion about Sid is based not only on the hooks appearing in the two letters. Using a magnifying glass, I have also spotted many things including muddiness, certain thickness of strokes and pointed endings of all the hooks. If I see such strokes in the handwriting of a woman on my first date, I’d get up to find the nearest exit. And you? Take your call.

In the space below, do write your views and share with me your opinion with the article and also your experiences with people like Sid, if at all you have had any. For any query write to me vishwas.heathcliff@gmail.com or leave your message in the space below. For old articles, click here.

MEET A SWEET TANYA

Tanya's handwriting sample

This week, I’m analysing the handwriting sample of a Write Choice visitor from Canada, Ms Tanya Irvine, who sent me her handwriting via email. Tanya, you are perceived as a very sweet person who is controlled completely by emotion. Most of your decisions are taken by your heart. Anybody who comes to you with an emotional story moves you. After you are melted by such stories, some people do take advantage of you. And the matter is worsened because you are also a little gullible. It’s not difficult to presume upon your credulity.

If you like someone, you say it. You don’t like to withhold your emotions. If you love someone, your preferred way to express it would be a tight hug. (Though it’s not always possible!) Tanya, your need for people in your life is immense and you want to be accepted by everyone. Because of this desire to be liked and seek attention, you think that being sweet is the only way to make yourself acceptable to everyone. You want others to approve of you because you don’t trust your abilities to complete a task despite being an organised person. Your set your goals pretty high but the efforts you have been making or the risks you have been taking to achieve them are inadequate. You are essentially an outspoken person but you don’t speak your mind, fearing that by being blunt you might antagonise people. Also, you have fear of rejection and problem taking ‘no’ for an answer. Despite being a sweet person, you are facing issues in your intimate personal relationships.

Tanya, if anyone says anything unpleasant to you, it occupies your mind for a long time. You keep thinking about it and trouble yourself. You exhaust yourself thinking, “Why did he say that? What did he mean by that?” Right, Tanya?

Tanya, you have difficulty taking quick decisions and you need others’ help with forming an opinion. If others don’t approve of your decisions, it bothers you. You have a tendency to defy the authority. You hate people who boss around. I trace the root of this tendency your relationship with your father. You faced emotional issues with your dad.

In short, you are a great person and too friendly. You go all out to help your friends. And looking at your handwriting sample, I won’t think twice before accepting you as a friend. Honestly.

CORRECTION

POP A PEN KILLER
Tanya, write “I do what I want to do” about three pages every day for a month on ruled paper . Leave a margin of one inch on the left. Write on every alternate line and make sure that the placement of your t’s are as you see in CORRECTION. The exercise will make sure the gap between your goals and your efforts is bridged. Also, you won’t unnecessarily feel the need for approval from others and will being to speak your mind more often than not. You’ll also cease to find fault with yourself. All the best, Tanya. Hope you enjoyed reading this.

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SORRY DOCS, BUT YOUR HANDWRITING SUCKS

The prick will cause or ease the pain?

Years ago, I heard about the awkward predicament of a young girl. She used to visit chemist shops frequently. No, she was not a patient of chronic diarrhoea; she was in a long-distance relationship with a doctor who used to write to her love letters thrice a week. Like most doctors, his handwriting was also illegible. It could not be read: it could only be deciphered.

Most doctors write illegibly and it’s extremely annoying. We have all experienced it. Forget about the names of the medicines, we can’t even figure out whether we have to pop the pill before waking up or after going to bed. Like a bunch of buffoons, we depend on the extraordinary ability of salesmen at medicine shops to understand what has been prescribed for us and how the drugs have to be administered on us. “Why can’t these buggers write clearly?” an exasperated chemist near my residence once muttered when I handed over to him a medical prescription. The query could indeed by categorised as a universal poser: Why don’t doctors write legibly? But I believe the more pertinent question here should be: Why do doctors write illegibly and what does it mean? We’ll try finding answers to this.

In many cases, gaining health means losing wealth

Last month, I came across a report about a Mumbai doctor who was lambasted by a court of law for preparing a medical report in illegible handwriting. Following the rap, she gave an undertaking in the court that she would try to improve her handwriting. (Read the report). It was a good precedent set by the court and I was savouring the news that morning. Even as I was reading the report, a friend called up and said, “Vish, why don’t you write on doctors’ illegible handwriting?”

“If I do, I will die unattended when I’m unwell. Because if by any chance the doctor who has read this happens to encounter me as a patient, he will look at me as if I were a dead body, not an ailing person,” I told the friend.

“Never mind. There are certainly a few doctors who write legibly and you can depend on them” she argued.

She was right. I decided to write on doctors who write illegibly. Here we go:

Handwriting experts across the world have established that consistent illegible handwriting is indicative of a subconscious inclination to be careless, negligent and sloppy towards the person for whom it has been written. Therefore, if a doctor writes illegibly for his patients, it means he is inconsiderate to the recipients of the prescriptions. It’s like an attitude imprinted on the paper, which could be roughly put into words in the following manner: “I don’t care whether you are able to read it or not; I don’t care whether you get well or not; I am sitting here doing my job the way I like, in my own style. How much you will be benefitted from my skills is your problem and I am not going to be least bothered about what happens to you after you leave this cabin. Just pay the fee to my assistant and get out…”

Doctor, writing legibly means showing care. Do patients not deserve that?

I know it sounds bizarre but that’s what illegible handwriting means. This attitude among some doctors emanates from the realisation of a power to effect changes in an individual’s physical existence. The power is extraordinary and very few can handle it with ease and without losing their sanity. And no doubt some doctors are as fallible as any other humans and they argue that they write illegibly because they are in haste and they have to attend to many patients. Now, I have a serious problem with this argument. It’s complete hogwash. We can prove it. On an average, a doctor does not write more than 40 words on a prescription. Let’s assume that they take about three minutes to write a prescription in illegible handwriting. But if they wrote legibly, maybe they would take four minutes. Right? The difference is just about 60 seconds. Doc, do you really want me to believe that you write illegibly because you are too busy to spare 60 seconds? Sorry, sir, give me another one. If you consistently write illegibly for your patients, it shows your carelessness and inconsideration.

Illegible handwriting

Here is an example: the same friend who told me to write on doctors’ illegible handwriting shared with me that her grandfather, a doctor by profession, used to write illegibly while writing prescriptions, but he showed amazing clarity in handwriting when he wrote personal letters. Every time he wrote to his dear family members, he wanted to show his caring nature. And he used to show that through clarity in his handwriting. Do you see a clearer picture now? Haven’t all of us experienced that we become concerned about legibility while writing on greetings cards or love cards? Have you ever thought why? I’m sure you got your answer today: legibility, graphology says, is a subconscious way to show care. So, next time you receive a get-well-soon card with messages written in illegible handwriting, I’m sure you will know how to take it.

Pills that generate only bills

Docs, if your signature is as illegible as your handwriting, then I really do not know what to say. I’ll rather not get into that subject here, as I don’t want doctors to issue a fatwa against me and blacklist me as a patient. Illegible handwriting with illegible signature is a deadly combination. The patients of such doctors say: “My doctor gave me six months to live, but when I couldn’t pay the bill he gave me six months more.” Docs, no hard feelings. Now, permit me to offer you a suggestion, docs. Please write legibly and you will discover a sudden drop in the number of notices against you for negligence.

By the way, guys, what do you think of the relationship between the doc and the girl who visited the chemist shop frequently? Do you think that guy loved her? I’m not telling you the answer. This one is easy. Go figure!

(You may read this and many other articles on the website of Handwriting University International) To know more about the blog and know how graphotherapy works, click here.

MR MITTAL’S HANDWRITING ANALYSIS

Mr Mittal's handwriting sample

In this post I am analysing the handwriting sample of Mr N Mittal, a Write Choice visitor. Mr Mittal is a rare combination of intense emotions, dignity, pride, honour and self-respect. He always watches a fight between his emotions and his pride. Emotions want him to let go, but his pride stops him for showing what he feels. He has an excessive need to appear right and look appropriate. Mr Mittal always feels he should not say or do anything that is below his dignity. If anyone does not oblige him on his first request, he won’t say it again. He shows respect for people, gives them importance, offers them space and expects other to treat him similarly. He is too proud of the way he looks and handles things in his life. Watch out, Mr Mittal! There is a thin line dividing pride and vanity. Anyone who wants to win his favour needs to appeal to his heart. He is guided by emotions, though he does not exhibit them very often. Mr Mittal sets practical and achievable goals for himself and he pretty much achieves them. He has a keen interest in philosophy and spirituality and ardently pursues acquisition of knowledge. He is emotionally distant from both his parents, especially mom. And it’s likely his mom was a disciplinarian at home.

POP A PEN KILLER

Mr Mittal, I don’t recommend any changes in your handwriting at the moment. But I would like you to bring about some changes in your signature (I’m not showing it for ). I see that the first letter of your first name is overwritten by your second name. I suggest you separate them and use your full name in the signature, making sure that the ‘N’ is the biggest letter in the entire signature. It’s ok to underline your signature the way you do now. All the best!

MISS EMOTION, I’M NOT IN LOVE WITH YOU

Tears... my private tears

Tears are pearls. No wonder they sell well — most of the time. Ask TV soap queen Ekta Kapoor; she knows. Evidently, many buy tears (teary stories). Many ignore them. Some drops are genuine, some fake. A lot of people shed tears to feel lighter; a great many misuse them to arm-twist others into meeting selfish ends. Some say tears are soul’s shower, others argue they reflect lack of power. Some let them flow when they are in pain; many withhold because they think it’s a shame.

I share my grief with myself

Clearly, the world is split over tears. Both views are “valid”, no doubt, and there are plenty of arguments to cushion each of them. Hence, it would be foolish and anserine to take sides and decide which of the two is “more precise” and “logical”. For the moment, we can all agree that the value of this salt-water solution depends on situations. For example, its acceptability in public is utmost only in utter grief or extreme happiness. Any exception to this makes tears attract dyslogistic adjectives such as “ridiculous”, “sissy”, “silly”, “effeminate” and the worst of them all and most casual one is “woman-like”. In short, there is an overriding tendency to disparage emotional behaviour and look down upon tears because they “show the individual’s weakness” and very few want to be associated with the frail and feeble.

The tears of professional and habitual mourners. Indeed, they don't know anything else other than crying & crying

Inveterate lamenters don’t care; they give a damn about the dam between the tears and the world outside. Just about any loss — real or imaginative — makes them breach the barrier at any hour of the day, in any situation of life, for anything whatsoever. No holds barred. We all know these patients of ocular diarrhoea and find it strenuous to value them or their grief exhibited by tears. In handwriting analysis, such writers, who lack emotional control, are identified by a certain extremity in the right slant coupled with a bouncy baseline (picture A). There are many exceptions to these indicators and we’ll talk about these emotional freaks in detail some other time. Here, we’ll play snooker.

PICTURE A: Right slant with bouncy baseline

Ok… I was kidding. No games here. We’ll talk about the other extreme; about those who don’t sell tears. Yes, the same person who sits in the corner and seldom shouts, scarcely screams, rarely reacts, keeps cool, looks detached and appears unperturbed. All of us know a few such people in our lives. They look inviolable and strong. How well do you think you know such people? How do they deal with their emotional pain if they never let the pearls roll down their cheeks? Mind you, they don’t even share their grief with others. Is it possible that they have secret tears that nobody knows about? Is it likely that they never reveal even to their “best” friends that they cry clandestinely even when something “very minor” upsets them? Do they always put up a brave front in the face of losses or hurt while all they want to do is to break down and cry?

Friend, don't ask me questions. I don't feel the need to tell anyone what I feel

Well, the answers to these questions perhaps shape some secret realities of their well-guarded private lives that might be identical to those of many of us. One of the realities is that no matter what others’ views are on tears, many such “strong” people do let their tears flow when they want to and make sure nobody knows about it — maybe just to deflect derision.

On my way back home from office every night by local train, I often choose to stand at the gate because the compartments are not crowded at that hour of the day and it’s a delight braving the gush of wind. One day last week when I was going home, I stood at the gate, looking aimlessly at things that whizzed past in the darkness outside. Suddenly, I was startled by a few drops that scurried down my cheeks. Thankfully, nothing dries faster than tears. I was relieved. I looked around. Nobody had noticed the freedom-seeking drops. It happened to me a few times that week. The reason behind the pain that triggered those tears is personal. And nobody except me knows that. I don’t feel the need to share it. Anyway… let’s not concentrate on me or my pain. I’m not so important. The point I am trying to make here is that some people, especially men, have a tendency to desist from displaying emotions. In interpersonal relationships, they are written off as unemotional people who “don’t understand emotions and have no feelings”. By the way, I see your mind is still trying to guess what happened to me in the train that night. Do you expect me to talk about it? Buzz off! I’m not telling you. Let’s move ahead now.

Talking of emotions: each of us has emotions. But are we all emotional? Perhaps no. Even if we are, do we all show it? Perhaps no. Apparently, many people don’t exhibit emotions because they are not sure whether their emotions will be respected and “understood well” by others. Therefore, emotions are reined and chained and they are freed only in secured environment, in which “no one around”.

PICTURE B: Notice loops in l, h, g & y

Ok, how do we know how emotional a person is? Is crying the only criterion? I agree that those who shed tears more often than not are emotional people. But those who don’t aren’t? Let’s find it out from handwriting. In order to keep anything whatsoever, you need space. If you have too much space to store emotions in your life, it shows in your handwriting. Loops are where you stock emotions. In picture B, notice the loops in l’s, g and y. (The loops in upper and lower zones refer to emotions employed in various areas, such as work, family, romance and religion. It’s another study altogether, which we can’t club with this article.) For the moment, I would like you to understand that the loopier the writing and heavier the writing pressure, the more emotions a person has. Also, the cup-like formations between two connected letters (e.g. see the cup between two l’s and ‘u’ and ‘n’) is also indicative of a person’s capacity to contain emotions.

PICTURE C: Slant of the writing is left. The handwriting shows the writer might have experienced trauma.

However, that does not mean that he will be emotional to boot. Whether he will express it or not is known by the slant and pressure of his writing. The heavier the pressure, the greater the emotional intensity and force. In handwriting analysis, a writer with straight slant (with moderate pressure) invariably uses judgment to make decisions. He is ruled by his head, not heart. Some may see him as cold or unemotional. It’s not true. He does have emotions but has no need to express them. The writer does not express emotions until they become extreme or build up over time. Similarly, people with a certain left slant (Picture C) also desist from being emotional. They are socially withdrawn and all emotions are reserved for their personal lives. Unless their signatures indicate that they will be bubbly in public, such writers are detached and withdrawn most of the time. The favourite song of such people happens to be Private Emotions.

My tears are for all to see...

There are various slants of writing, which reflect how a person is likely to react in emotional situations. Graphology students are told to pay special attentions to slants that indicate the emotional outlay of the person. If the slant is not determined correctly, it’s likely that the analyst will go wrong. For example, a stroke in the handwriting may tell us that the writer is ill-tempered, but if he has a straight slant and a firm baseline, he won’t blow up as fast as someone with the right slant. Clearly, the same ill-temper stroke will give different results in different slants of writing. If a girl with a certain right slant in her handwriting gets involved with a guy who writes with a straight or left slant, she will have to wait for long to know whether he likes her not.  While talking to him at the emotional level, she will feel as if she is continuously drawing water from a deep well. By the way, after analysing  the handwriting of Ms Better-Than-Google.com, who writes with an extreme right slant, I had warned her against getting involved with a left-slant writer because a relationship with him can never provide her fulfillment. My warning to her had a reaon: I’ve found that most people with extreme right slant get involved with the left-slant writers. It’s because opposites attract.

By the way, what do we do with the tears with which we started? Let’s leave them here. As I said, nothing dries faster than tears. They will vanish soon.

HANDWRITING ANALYSIS OF RUNA & VISHAL SHAH

Runa Shah

In this post, I am analysing the handwriting samples of Runa Shah and her husband Vishal.  Well, there are many good things about these two handwriting, but I will restrict myself to their problems. Vishal, please share your problems with your wife and take it from me that you can bank on her decisions. She can provide you good support. You have to be less pessimistic, Vishal because you always believe that nothing is going to work out for you. When you talk about any  of your problems to your wife, you approach the subject with a great deal of negativity.  Vishal, for some reasons, mainly financial, you see see your future dark. It’s likely that some of your decisions that went wrong in the past are haunting you even now. I see in your handwriting that you are always filled with self-doubt and suspect your capabilities to accomplish your tasks. Surprisingly, you don’t even like to talk about it to anyone. I must tell you, Vishal, that most of the problems you are facing these have roots in your indiscipline and your reluctance to take any risks in life. You wife, on the other hand, must be telling you often to dream bigger. But most of the time, you find yourself playing chess with petty issues and fail to set big targets in life.

Vishal Shah

Lack of trust is another major issue in your life, Vishal. You don’t know how much to trust the people around you and you suspect their motives most of the time. You have to understand, Vishal, that you don’t exist in isolation and sometimes others’ interests and choices are likely to cross your path. Therefore, you must be open to suggestions from others.  I am asking you to  open up because you are defensive. You don’t have to look too far for help. I think you have got a worthy companion in your wife. She speaks straight and clear. If you ever want to find a frank opinion on an issue, ask her. She will tell you.

Runa, I think I have praised you a lot. Well, that’s because you deserve it. But I have to tell you something. I know you have a great deal of patience, but you need to understand Vishal much more. The reason is he does not say much. Vishal does not feel comfortable in opening up. You have to ignore his coldness and dispel his fears. You should also stop snapping at him. You handwriting tell me, Runa, that though in private you are a confident person and do not doubt your abilities, but when you are in a group of people you feel small about yourself and don’t miss any opprtunity to belittle yourself. Therefore, you choose to sit in a corner rather than being a part of the crowd.

POP PEN KILLER

CORRECTION

There is one suggestion for both of you: double the size of your signatures. Practise the new signature for at least 50 times a day for about a month. Vishal, you signature should have all the letters of your name (currently you write just the first letter of your name) and it ought to be underlined. Runa, please change the way you write your small case ‘f’. In CORRECTION, you see that the lower portion of the letter f is round, not as angular as you see in your handwriting. Practise the new ‘f’ for about 40 days on at least three pages every day. Vishal, write “I will go and get it for you” for at least three pages every day on ruled paper. Write for about 40 days and make sure you leave a margin of one inch on both sides of the pages. Pay attention to the arrow marks in CORRECTION. Your lower case g’s nd y’s should be round at the bottom and they their tails should not be hanging at the bottom; they should come all the way up. All the best, both of you!

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